A Day In The Life

Get to know your friends

We all have friends that we are very close to, some friends are even closer than others. If we are very fortunate we even have two are three best friends during our lifetime.  I have a special rule about Best Friends; you can only have one best friend at a time, otherwise the title is meaningless.  For my purpose: “Best” according to definition is: Finest, Greatest, Top, Unsurpassed, Superlative, Preeminent, Paramount, Grade A, etc., etc. The bottom line is that there can only be one occupying the title at one time.  In my mind there is no age requirement, for a best friend.  Growing up I had what I considered best friends, which can be, until proven otherwise. 

According to Urban Dictionary: 

Best Friends are very special people in your life. They are the first people you think about when you make plans. They are the first people you go to when you need someone to talk to. You will phone them up just to talk about nothing, or the most important things in your life. When you’re sad they will try their hardest to cheer you up. They give the best hugs in the world! They are the shoulder to cry on, because you know that they truly care about you. In most cases they would take a bullet for you, coz it would be too painful to watch you get hurt.

Having said all the above, are we as familiar with our friends, as we ought to be? Unless your friend is someone that you have known since childhood and you grew up together, not very likely, and for all the right reasons. I usually don’t know details about my friends because I don’t like to pry (interrogate) into my friends’ personal life. I just had breakfast with a very, good friend that I have known for over 28 years, and I learned more about his life history in one hour, than I’ve ever known in all the years of knowing him.  I also shared some of my personal history with him (you might say in-kind).

Now that I have just experienced that conversation, I feel like I know him that much better, and while there were no earth shattering revelations forthcoming, I feel like I know him a lot better. One of the ways that I arrived at the conclusion that I didn’t know enough about my close friends is, that my wife might ask me a question about a friend and I don’t have the answer.  I still don’t interrogate them, but I’ve decided to learn more.

It’s not too late to get to know your friends better.  Anyone would be honored to share more, while at the same time appreciating that you have had such respect for their privacy over the years.  Get to know your friends better if you don’t already.  It leaves you with a good feeling.  I still only hold one friend at a time in the Best Friend Category, and I recently awarded that title to my best friend M., and he is stuck with it for life; mine or his whichever expires first. The best is yet to come…